17-year-old labels 25-year-old successful sister a 'charity case' after she refuses to help their mom with rent, claiming her success was all due to connections: ‘She acts like she’s better than us'

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jan 31, 2025 5:00 PM EST

Many people these days believe that in order to succeed in life, you don't really need talent anymore, all you need is to know the right people. Connections are much more important now than actual skill, which means that without knowing people who can help you get ahead, you don't really stand a chance of succeeding.

While those statements have some truths, the world is not black or white. It sure does help to know people who can help, but hard work is still very much required. It's not fair to assume that every successful person we know has gotten to where they are simply because they knew the right people.

Even if you did have people supporting you, why is that wrong? Why wouldn't we rely and lean on people who can actually assist? This life is hard enough, there is no reason to make it harder by telling ourselves that the only way to success is on our own.

The sister in the story down below was being criticized by her sibling because she got ahead in life thanks to a rich family she used to babysit for. Keep scrolling to read about her dispute with her actual family.

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  • "The only reason she's well off now is because she was a rich person's charity case"
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  • "AITA for telling my sister that she’s a rich family’s charity case"

    I have 3 siblings and my mom is a single mom in a very high cost of living area. Needless to say we were broke growing up.
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  • My oldest sister always wanted what everyone else had so she started working when she was 11. When she was 15 she got a babysitting job for an extremely rich family.
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  • The family always treated her really well. When they upgraded their phones or computers they offered her their old ones for free, they had her travel with
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  • them (she was technically working but she did get to see 12 countries in 3 years and flew first class every time), and they even gave her interest free
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  • loans when she got a car and when she went to college. She graduated college 5 years ago and one of the
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  • parents was able to get her a job at her work's childcare center. She moved up the ladder very fast thanks to their support and is now managing 5 locations.
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  • I get that she did have to work but she also got a lot of this because of who she knows. She acts like she did all of this on her own though and she
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  • won't help out family because if she managed to get where she is we could do it too. Our mom is behind on rent and she asked my
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  • sister to help her out (my sister is about to buy a 2nd house) and my sister refused because she doesn't think my mom has done anything to help herself.
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  • Right off the bat, you can tell that the sister worked, and worked hard, to get where she is in life. She was only 11 when she got her first job, and it seems like the rich family she babysat for saw something in her that none of her actual family saw for themselves. 

    She had a family who believed in her and supported her throughout every milestone in her life. 

    What does her real family do? Criticises her for her success, and labels her selfish when she refuses to give them money. 

    Sounds like they need a reality check, and she needs to cut off contact with them as soon as possible…

  • I was sick of her acting like she's better than us just because she had better opportunities so I told her the reason she's well off now is because because she was a rich
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  • person's charity case and they made sure she got good jobs and stuff. Now she's mad at me for being r de and she's refusing to help us out or talk to us. AITA?
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  • 101037633 YTA. Your sister started working at 11. Found herself an amazing opportunity, through her own hard work, and
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  • nannied for a family for years. This family clearly appreciated her efforts for them. She put herself through college. And became successful, all on her own. She doesn't owe you, your mother, or anyone anything.
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  • charitycasesister OP She barely put herself through college. She had financial aid cover most of it and was given an interest free loan to cover the rest. We'd all be doing a little better if we had the option for interest free student loans
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  • GhostParty21 INFO: How old are all the kids? Where is your dad/are your dads? Why is mom behind on rent? Did mom help pay for your sister's college at all? Has mom helped her with anything?
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  • charitycasesister OP I'm 17, younger brother is 15, older brother is 20. Dads are not in the picture. Mom's car broke down and needed repairs. Mom did not pay for sisters college
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  • Brit_in_usa1 How is it ok for your sister to work at 11 years old but not ok for you to get a part time job at 17?! You're nearly an adult and should start looking to get a job, regardless of what your mother wants.
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  • King Henry 1964 Help me out with the math: Sis is five years out from college, so 27 years old? She's been working for 16 years? Sorry to say, but if your younger brother is
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  • younger than that, your mother is also TA. Her 11 year old is working and she has another child? I hope I'm wrong about the numbers.
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  • charitycasesister OP She graduated from college when she was 20. She's 25
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  • Dingbats_are_cute YTA what HAS your mother done to help herself? Don't get petty and jealous at your sister's success, it looks like she's worked very hard to get where she is.
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  • Tyson843 Why aren't YOU helping your mum?? At least her being a 'charity case' mounted to her being to be financially comfortable and
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  • be able to do things for herself. What is the story behind not wanting to help her mum??
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  • charitycasesister OP She just really resents our mom and tries to distance herself from us
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  • disgraceful_hag gee I wonder why
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  • evilsarah23 Tell your mother to get a job
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  • charitycasesister OP She has one
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  • secretholder1991 So may be your brother is the real charity case here. YTA
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  • charitycasesister OP He's family. She was a babysitter for a rich family that felt bad for her and started letting her sleep there, gave her their "old" tech, took her on vacations, and helped her with college, a car, and a job.
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  • The Mighty Koosh She didn't do well in uni or get the promotions due to the family.
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  • charitycasesister OP They helped with the promotions. My sister's boss's boss is a close family friend with the other family.
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  • McJazzHands80 YTA. Did you consider that these people helped your sister so much because they saw how hard she was working and admired her drive?
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  • INFO: how often has your sister had to help your Mom over the years? What are you doing to help?
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  • charitycasesister OP She helped back when she lived here so we could get a 3 bedroom apartment instead of 2 bedroom but she hasn't helped with anything after she moved out.
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